Do Nice Guys And Girls Do It?
Yes they do! I'm talking about online dating of course ;) Online dating sites were growing like mushrooms when it was first introduced into the cyber world. It was also filled with perverts, sexual predators, nerds, and weirdoes of many kinds and species.
But that was all in the past we should say. All the ugliness and stigma of online dating have since been exorcise from our memories ever since it has gone mainstream. It has been widely accepted as another means of finding a partner. Singles are no longer accepted but expected to have at least a profile in at least 5 online dating websites.
Online dating has become a primary tool of singles of all ages and backgrounds to reward themselves of an interesting and thrilling social life. Singles are busy bees. We just do not have the time, energy and funds to date 3 to four times a week. Some even dates twice a day!
You can filter through the 'millions' of profiles in any period of time for less money. Compare this to one evening. Save time and money. The internet is used everyday by everyday people to save themselves time and money for investments, shopping, useful information and research. It's a very useful tool.
Why don't we use this useful tool for our social and personal lives too? Maybe you can find your life partner? Even if your date didn't work out, you'll always have a friend who knows other single friends. Talk about lasting friendships. So how and where do we start? It's easy. A computer and internet connection are all that you need. Next, you will need to source for online dating services that meets your specific needs. There are doodles of them in the cyber world.
You'll be spoilt for choices. But before you go gaga, just join one or two online dating sites first. You will need to write a good profile. Then you'll need to upload a recent picture of yourself. After that depending on some sites, your profile might need some time to be approved. While waiting for it, go through the profile of potentials online dates. Maybe shortlist a few. Once your profile is approved, start making contacts. Guys, the girls normally expect you to make the first move. For the ladies. No harm making the first move yourselves. As some guys find it fascinating for a girl to make the first move. Now just be patient...a lot of it. Good things happen to all that waits.
So what about the gals? What's a gal to do? Same thing, she should choose a site or sites which fits her needs too. There are free sites...but I don't recommend those unless money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are large paid sites with many features. There are less expensive paid sites which offers less features. There are also special interest sites which serve the special needs of their members. These includes religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians and almost anything you can think of. There are other things to consider which I will lay out in the next few paragraphs.
Cost
How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership(s)?
Features
Decide which features are important to you. Most sites provide computerised profile matching services free. But then it is totally subjective. Some online daters would prefer to decide for themselves who is right for them. There are sites which provide chat rooms and IM's. Or would you just stick with the private emailing only. Some sites do organize meetings for their members. Such as speed dating or movie outings. Mostly group dates. How about privacy? Would you allow everyone to see your profile or only certain groups of people? The bigger the pool, the better the chances. You might have to provide some private information on these sites. They may require your personal details for background checking purposes. It's up to each individual to consider on the best sites that will meet their needs. Do your homework and choose wisely for best results.
Whatever it is, don't wait any longer to start your new and interesting social life. Your perfect partner could just be a few clicks away. Happy clicking.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
A Man's Guide to Successful Online Dating
A lot of people have taken online dating like a duck takes to water because it works or it can work. Unlike men, women are in general, terrified of it. The idea of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online is totally terrifying. All they heard about are the spooky and scary things that have happened and I must agree with them if they want to be extremely careful about meeting up. It's not only a must but vital to the online dating practice. So what does a nice guy have to do then? You're not a pervert or a sexual predator or even a weirdo. You're just looking for "the" right girl . Somebody to bring home to meet your mom. A noble intention I must say.
One must be patient. Try not to press for your online date's personal information like her real name or her address. Keep your conversation light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. And don't try to rush her for a face to face meeting. She might get the wrong idea and thinks your a pervert or worse, desperate. Three words. Patience, patience, patience.
Be honest. Absolutely honest. Tell the truth about your appearance and your job. From previous online dating experience, good relations are never built on lies and deceit. She will find out about the truth eventually. By then, you'll be back where you started.
In your profile, post as many pictures as possible. Post "real" pictures. Pictures of yourself doing normal everyday activities. Full body pictures if possible, not just head shots. If your dating a girl in real world she wouldn't just be dating your head.
Once the online discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during broad daylight and she bring a friend along. You have nothing to hide if you've told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. What's left is to make her feel safe meeting you. Good luck!
One must be patient. Try not to press for your online date's personal information like her real name or her address. Keep your conversation light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. And don't try to rush her for a face to face meeting. She might get the wrong idea and thinks your a pervert or worse, desperate. Three words. Patience, patience, patience.
Be honest. Absolutely honest. Tell the truth about your appearance and your job. From previous online dating experience, good relations are never built on lies and deceit. She will find out about the truth eventually. By then, you'll be back where you started.
In your profile, post as many pictures as possible. Post "real" pictures. Pictures of yourself doing normal everyday activities. Full body pictures if possible, not just head shots. If your dating a girl in real world she wouldn't just be dating your head.
Once the online discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during broad daylight and she bring a friend along. You have nothing to hide if you've told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. What's left is to make her feel safe meeting you. Good luck!
Monday, September 14, 2009
Popular Online Dating Activities For Men
Heads up, guys. Online dating can open up new windows of opportunities with a little help from real world dating tips that work. Spice up your matchmaking with some of these ideas.
Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. YES, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they're online and you can't see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like - how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.
Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life - nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So how manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And "do unto others..."
So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance - and enjoy more lemonade!
Looks Count
Comment on how attractive she is. YES, women do want to know they are pretty, even if they're online and you can't see them and have no idea. So in your communications, ask questions that would help you know, but in an unobtrusive way like - how do you wear your hair? And then say how attractive that must look.
Kindness Counts
Point out nice things or the lemonade in life - nice things the other person has mentioned, nice acts the person has done, good things on the news latterly, etc. Be upbeat, and forget those lemons in life. Even in email a person can shout, by using all capital letters. So how manners and kindness. Keep swearing, unkind remarks, prejudice, etc. out of your communications. And "do unto others..."
So add some helpful real-world tips that do work (a lot of the time anyway) into your online dating equations. And come up on the positive side of romance - and enjoy more lemonade!
Popular Online Dating Activities
All types of everyday activities are growing in popularity online these days like sharing photos and greeting cards. In fact, both of these even go hand in hand with online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.
Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here's how.
Photos - As wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc. Then you'll even have more to discuss during online dating chats via emails and chat rooms. Search for "photo albums" to find places that store your photos.
Greeting Cards - Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O. Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not need to be an artist to make something homemade specially for the new friend in your life. Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be greatly appreciated and show your date that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a "click".
Get online and get active! Don't risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge! Don't wait! Date!
Before actually meeting in person, many dates get acquainted online first. Here's how.
Photos - As wonderful keepsake of your budding romance, create an online photo album for your new cyber-mate. Include digital photos of favorite outdoor scenes, pets, flowers, cars, silly moments, your computer corner or laptop, etc. Then you'll even have more to discuss during online dating chats via emails and chat rooms. Search for "photo albums" to find places that store your photos.
Greeting Cards - Regardless of where the person lives, you can mail a greeting card. If privacy and security is an issue, check into renting an inexpensive P.O. Box (check the Yellow Pages). You do not need to be an artist to make something homemade specially for the new friend in your life. Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be greatly appreciated and show your date that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. Search your favorite search engine for online greeting cards to send, too. They range from free to low cost and can be sent in a "click".
Get online and get active! Don't risk meeting in person until you get more familiar with each other online first. So take the online plunge! Don't wait! Date!
More Popular Online Dating Activities
A couple of popular online activities are sharing recipes and bidding at auctions. An both of these easily fit well into online dating opportunities, one of the most popular online activities for singles today.
To help many dates get better acquainted online, here's what potential cyber-dates do.
Sharing Recipes - People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills - or lack of - and tastes. Search your favourite search engine for "free recipes" to share. Take photo of your culinary creations and share them with your date online, too.
Bidding at Auctions - Ebay online auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Patridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman's Album, 45's and more.
Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you're at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what's cookin'.
To help many dates get better acquainted online, here's what potential cyber-dates do.
Sharing Recipes - People get tired talking about the weather. So a popular subject to turn to is food. Sharing favorite foods and recipes helps break the ice and even forms friendships over culinary skills - or lack of - and tastes. Search your favourite search engine for "free recipes" to share. Take photo of your culinary creations and share them with your date online, too.
Bidding at Auctions - Ebay online auctions sell nearly anything and everything! So surf around and enter searches like the dates you were in middle school. Share cool memorabilia photos of old games and toys from when you were a child or when your parents or grandparents were little; The Dating Game, Oscar Mayer wiener whistles, The Patridge Family Album, Bobby Sherman's Album, 45's and more.
Online dating can be an educational and fun experience. So learn more about each other and have fun while you're at it. Take a cyber-stroll down memory lane together and see what's cookin'.
Growing Online Dating Relationships
Just Like regular real-world relationships, online relationships need tending, to grow over time. Here are some quick growing tips.
Take time and make time. Does online date get in touch with you regularly? Do you do the same? Neglecting virtual abuse or neglect, so treat each other's time with respect. If it's lacking, might mean to move on.
Communication needs to "feel" right for both parties. If one of you is too pushy about meeting, for instance, that can give off bad vibes. So don't rush. Take time to learn more about each other and develop trust. Online dating is about being patient.
Respect each others privacy. Don't share personal email addresses or digital photos online, for example, if your online date sent you the information in confidence.
Share special online and offline fun times. Online - send greeting cards, links to favorite places to upload digital photos of your favorite pet, download music and video clips, post on favorite forums of interest. Offline - if you're exchanging addresses or post office boxes, send print greeting greeting cards and postcards, small items from your area (like a key chain with your state bird).
Tend your online relationship. Water it with care and over time it can sprout and grow. You objective is to get a real date out of the cyber world.
Establishing online dating Relationships: Safety First
Establishing online dating Relationships: Safety First
Online dating can be fun. But don't neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.
Protect your computer
Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e not for commercial use):
Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm http://www.zonelabs.com/
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus http://www.grisoft.com/
Protect Yourself
Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbours, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend.
In addition, search "online dating services" and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place.
Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.
So take care. Arm your computer - and yourself - with the correct tools and knowledge! Enjoy online dating.
Online dating can be fun. But don't neglect safety and common sense when you try to hook up with a mate. At minimum, take caution in the following areas.
Protect your computer
Take care of your equipment and systems before you head out into the Internet realm. You need to have a firewall and anti-virus protection for your email and for when you search websites and interact online. At bare minimum, you may want these two solutions that are offered at no charge to home computer users (i.e not for commercial use):
Free Firewall Download: ZoneAlarm http://www.zonelabs.com/
Free Anti-Virus Download: AVG Anti-Virus http://www.grisoft.com/
Protect Yourself
Take care of yourself, too, by choosing appropriate dating sites. Seek and choose a reputable online dating service. How? Begin by asking around with friends, neighbours, co-workers and others you may know who have tried online dating, and see which places they recommend.
In addition, search "online dating services" and keep a notebook of their URLs or website links, the fees, rules and regulations, complete contact information of each and any other useful information that spikes your interest. Then compare each place.
Try only those places where you feel safe. Avoid the others.
So take care. Arm your computer - and yourself - with the correct tools and knowledge! Enjoy online dating.
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